Re: I'm wondering if my marriage will survive the m/c from last year

Re: I'm wondering if my marriage will survive the m/c from last year
Posted by bjladams on 22:53 2/21/2008:
In Reply to: I'm wondering if my marriage will survive the m/c from last year posted by mikic on 16:38 2/21/2008:

I have had 3 m/c's. The first two, my husband was pretty supportive. He had to take me to the ER for both and watch me go through them. The 3rd one, I had a D&C and he didn't go with me, my mom took me. (He had to work.)He has not been as supportive this time. It's been a little over a month since the 3rd one. I don't think this one seemed as real to him since it was earlier then the others and he didn't have to participate in it. I think he also has the mentality - you've been there before, pull yourself up by your boot straps - he's a farmer.
You have double grief - grief from the miscarriage and grief from the infertility. That is especially hard. I went through the infertility part for 3 years and that was hard. Have you talked to your doctor about this? Maybe he can offer some suggestions. Check your local hospital, there might be a grief/miscarriage support group you could attend. Mine has one of those. I haven't gone, but I'm thinking about it.
Men have a harder time with the emotional aspect of this, it's easier for them to get over it, it didn't happen physically to them. Their hormones aren't all out of wack. That is something you can't control.
You are not alone!! There are people who know and understand how you feel and your concern about your marriage. Look at some of the messages and posts here and you will see.
Barb

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