Thank you for posting this
No one can even begin to understand how difficult it is to help a child with ADHD until they have one. It's an imbalance in the brain, not a bad parenting issue.
ADHD effects the entire family, not just the chilid who suffers with poor self esteem because they have no impulse control and cannot do what other kids in their class can do. My DS never got the brother he thought he would. As a family, we are unable to do many things because my DS can't sit still, can't focus.
Until you go to appt after appt and evaluation after evaluation and sit in a doctor's office and cry when they hand you the script, after years and years of trying to fix something unfixable (without meds), you just have no idea.