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Old 05-11-2011, 04:41 PM
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Default My Story : My husband's infertility

My husband and I are facing male infertility issues. We always knew that he had a cyst in one of his testicles but he was told by doctors not to worry about it. The doctors said that since there are two testicles that is built in redundancy and sperm count should not be an issue. When we began to try to conceive we had his count tested and it came back extremely low with low motility.

We recently went through the procedure to have the cyst removed. We had been SO hoping that this would correct the problem but unfortunately we found out today that his count is still too low Our doctor has advised us to wait 6 more weeks to see if it improves but he believes IVF is our only option.

The good news in all of this is that while they were performing the cyst removal they biopsied his testicle and removed some healthy sperm that are viable for IVF. We were thrilled with this news as having our own biological children is our dream. But now we face the costs of IVF and the uncertainty that goes along with this process. We do have youth on our side but the financial impacts are great. At the time we found out we had a feertility issue we were knee deep in house hunting. Needless to say that ahs been put on hold and to be honest I'm not sure we will be able to afford a house for quite some time if we want to build our family as we've planned. We live in Seattle and the cost of living here is rediculous!!!!

Likewise my husband has plans in the work to go back to school for a nursing degree. This will be a significant cut in pay and will make it very hard for us to take on the burden of these loans. We are looking into the scholarships but I'm afarid our current income is too high to qualify. On paper we make a good living but between the cost of living in Seattle, both of our student loans, past debt and paying for my husbands school we really don't have much. Our savings account is sparse and our 401Ks have only just started to develop.

I feel like we are stuck in this space where we make too much to qualify for help but we can't really afford to take on the cost of IVF. I see my dreams of having a beautiful family slipping away and I don't know what to do.
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Old 05-12-2011, 11:54 AM
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Hi...I'm so sorry that you're having to go through all of this and having to make such difficult decisions along the way. It can all be so overwhelming. I would definitely encourage you to apply for a scholarship, financial eligibility does take into account your debt burden and cost of living.
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Old 05-12-2011, 12:45 PM
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Thanks Annette! I think we will apply. My husband and I talked it over last night and it's definately worth a shot. It's all so overwhelming but we have to remember to keep hope and think positive. It's easy to get bogged down in the bad news and the frustration but it does no one any good to have a negative additude. Just like most things in life, if we work hard at this together and believe in ourselves we will achive our goals... hopefully with a little help from our firends We appreciate your feedback!
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Old 05-12-2011, 01:18 PM
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Hang in there, we're all here to support you! Anytime you need a pick-me-up or advice or just want to talk, someone is always here to help. I definitely believe that keeping a positive attitude is very important because if you dwell too long on the negative it tends to suck you in. You said that the doctor is going to analyze his sperm in six weeks, how long has it been since his operation? There is a supplement called ConceptionXR, my husband used it during our last IVF and he had a very good sample. I don't know if it was the ConceptionXR necessarily but I figure it couldn't hurt. Just something for you to maybe look into, our doctor highly recommends it for sperm-related issues and he even took it himself when he was having trouble conceiving with his wife.
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Old 05-12-2011, 04:26 PM
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Thanks Annette! We will definately look into the suppliment. His surgery was about 5 weeks ago, so I'm sure he's still healing inside. Luckily we do have some good samples on cryofreeze that were taken during his surgery. So even if his numbers don't jump up we still have hope!
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Old 05-12-2011, 07:07 PM
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I want to wish you the best of luck also. My husband and I are in the same boat as you (he had testicular cancer) and we too are trying to stay positive. Reading your story was like hearing my own thoughts. it's hard to believe that our health insurances do not consider this a medical necessity. To me, not having a child would be like not having oxygen.
Hang in there and continue on this blog, you'll hopefully find it extremely comforting.
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Old 05-13-2011, 01:12 PM
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Thanks Shoegal! I'm so soryy about your husband!!! I'm glad he made it through. That must have been a very scary experience for you.

I agree with your thoughts on health insurance. It's so frustrating! Hopefully someday that will change. I can tell you that I will be an outspoken advocate for the system to change.

Have you and your husband started the process of IVF? I wish you both luck!
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Old 05-13-2011, 05:33 PM
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Not yet. We have tried one insemination (unsuccessful) and our fertility specialist now says that IVF is our only option. We have applied for several grants, but no word yet. I can hardly wait, all I can think is "baby"!!
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Old 05-16-2011, 03:04 PM
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Have you thought about getting a second opinion? It seems like one IUI is too soon to give up on that route, what do you think?
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