A shrug of the shoulders is all it took to turn our world upside down.
My husband and I sat in our RE’s office, in those plush leather chairs that are supposed to make you feel comfortable, waiting for hope. After four failed IUIs, our IVF egg retrieval had given us nothing to transfer. Nothing grew after the initial fertilization. We were devastated and needed answers. I was 29 years, he was 31. We were young and healthy. This shouldn’t be happening.
Our doctor looked at us from across his desk. And shrugged his shoulders.
He had no clue why our treatments hadn’t worked. Said he would recommend trying again if money wasn’t an issue. It was probably a fluke, especially at my age. But he knew money was an issue, so his next best move was to use donor eggs...continued
I learned at a young age about fertility when I got pregnant the first time I ever had unprotected sex at age 23 (on day 10 of my cycle, after coming off bc pill and with a condom that failed). I had a pregnancy free from complications and had planned to have a second in a relationship that ultimately ended. Since my first child was conceived so easily, I was in no hurry for a second. I hoped the right man would come along and I would be able to expand my family.
The right man never came but my desire for a second child continued. When my son was 12, we took in two foster children. It was a very difficult year and I decided to consider having a child on my own. I spent a couple years planning. I saved up leave, paid off my students loans, and lost 30 pounds...continued
If you saw my husband and daughter and I as we sat at the diner and chatted while we indulged in a heaping plate of pancakes and bacon, you’d never know that 4 years ago, we never thought a day like this would be possible; the wonderful normalcy of family life.
In February of 2011, after 3 ½ years of marriage, we decided that we were ready to start our family. I was just about to turn 30 and everything had lined up just right with jobs, and home, and health, and finances - which seemed to be a sign that this was our time. I’d already been off of birth control since 2009 and charting my basal body temperature, so I felt sure that I knew what I was doing, and once we started trying, it would be quick and easy. Unfortunately, that was not the case. Months went by, and then a year, without success, and I was concerned. Everything was normal. My cycles were normal, our timing was good, we were both healthy. We couldn’t figure out what was taking so long...continued
My husband and I met right before I graduated high school, fell in love shortly thereafter, and married in 2003. After I graduated from nursing school in 2007, my husband and I felt it would be a good time to TTC. I thought it would be easy for us to have children. My mom, sister, and friends had found it easy to conceive. But after a few months of trying, I sensed that something was not right. My OB ran some simple blood tests, and everything checked out. I couldn’t figure out why we were not getting pregnant...continued
I never fully believed stuff like this, back Then. Sure, it sounded good.
But Now... Now I know how true it is.
The path takes you where you were always meant to be.
In this moment tonight. Rocking baby boy. He's just finished a bottle after waking up crying. He shouldn't be hungry yet, but he spent all evening crawling and pulling up and smiling a gummy grin of pride. So that left no time for much milk.
So I hold his 21 pound, solid frame firmly in my arms. Like I've said before, he just fits...continued