An Open Letter to INCIID about the IVF Scholarship

Karmann and Karl at INCIID Fundraiser

A new and updated Scholarship Application packet is located here.

Thank you for your open letter to  INCIID about your IVF Journey of hope. We appreciate sharing one of life's most difficult undertakings with others in order that they too may see some light at the end of the fertility tunnel. If you know someone struggling or want to help INCIID reach more couples, please email us.

Sara's Story: "Why don't you just adopt?"

Mother, father and newborn baby

When I heard couples discussing their attempts at pregnancy and IVF, I said, with contempt in my voice,, “Why don’t you just adopt.”  Yes, I was one of “those people”.

I was adopted, and it worked out fine for my parents and me. I believed that people choosing IVF were self-centered and arrogant about the necessity to pass on their genes to offspring. I admit I took the attempts to create a family through treatment personally—as if people who choose IVF were somehow disparaging or devaluing my non-biological relationship to my parents and sister.

Krissy's Story: Endometriosis, Donor Embryos, Eggs, & the Czech Republic

As a young woman I learned about fertility with a surprise pregnancy at twenty-three. My first pregnancy experience came when I had unprotected sex on day 10 of my cycle, after coming off birth control pills. The condom we used failed and I became pregnant. My pregnancy was complication-free. We planned to have a second child but ultimately our relationship ended.  

I did not worry about conceiving another child because my first pregnancy was easy to conceive and carry. I was in no hurry waiting for “Mr. Right” so together we could expand our family.

Fertility from A Man's Perspective

First, no matter how much it the guys think it is, women always have a more difficult path. But for a man, there is still real difficulty. Because man will never carry a pregnancy, there is somewhat of a separation between the male perspective and the female perspective on infertility. With that in mind, let me share a little bit of my side of the struggle with infertility. About six months to a year after we married, my wife and I began the process of building our family. After a year we started asking questions as to why we had not yet gotten pregnant.

An Update from Kaitlin and Scott's IVF Scholarship Experience

Twins

In late 2013, after many months of treatments and medications, my husband and I were blessed with the gift of a positive pregnancy test.  The coming weeks, blessed us with news of a boy/girl twins pregnancy. This blessed event was a dream-come-true. 

Our pregnancy was smooth as we went through testing, ultrasounds, and OBGYN appointments.  However, at 23 weeks everything changed.  What was once our greatest gift turned into the most difficult event of our lives. The day after we became parents to Nora and Hendrik they passed quietly away in our arms.  They lived only 37 short hours. The heartbreak was unbearable.

The Zika Virus: What you need to know.

What you need to know about the Zika Virus when trying to get pregnant.
Example of a rash
Planet with mosquitoes surrounding it
Map of spreading Zika virus.

[Note: Update June 28, 2016, call your Senators to ask them to pass a "clean bill" for emergency funding. Some Senators are adding riders to the bill designed to make it harder to pass. According to the Centers for Disease Control (CDC) Zika is her in the US and is an International Crisis]

ADA Resources

ADA & Disability History

ADA Timeline

Learn more about the history of the Americans with Disabilities Act (ADA) through this historical timeline from the ADA National Network. 
Web: adata.org/ada-timeline

A Day in the Life of a Fertility Nurse

Fertility Nurse

Walking into work with a coffee in my hand, I prepare for the day. We get a variety of patients which is what I love about my job. We see so many patients and each person has a different story. I cannot wait to see what happens for each one of them.

My first task for the day is to read my email. I check email often and often respond late into the evening. When I check again I find someone sent me a picture of their new baby, another letting me know their pregnancy test was negative and another ecstatic but worried with a positive pregnancy test. There are the ups and the downs. We are consummate professionals but still as we watch you going through the emotional and taxing fertility journey, we empathize with all the different emotions and the pain. This fertility excursion is a tough one but we continue with lots of hugs, medical advice and even tears of joy and sorrow

Jacob and Carissa's Pathway to Parenting

HOW WE MET

Carissa's friend suggested we met, and literally from the first date I knew Jacob was the love of my life!  This treasured photograph was taken on our first date.    We have now been married for five years, and have been trying to have a family for over four years.   

Barbara's Story: The journey was a long one

 My dearest Leon, the Journey for you was a long one and a short one all at the same time. This journal I’m writing is a little different than the one I wrote for the Penguins, the embryo we adopted, and the triplets because you are the child that we get to hold in our arms every day and love on you and kiss you every day. I cannot picture any other child in our life and any other child to call us Momma and Dada.  However, it was quite the journey to get you.  Dada and I first talked about adoption when we were engage.  We talked about how we want someday to adopted along with have children of our own but was not sure how long  it would be or how we would adopted.

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