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When Talk Isn’t Enough: Easing Trauma’s Lingering Shock (Link)

An Interview transcript with Bessel van der Kolk, MD conducted by Ryan Howes

As therapists, we inhabit a professional culture that stresses the importance of being accommodating, tactful, nonconfrontational. It’s part of our job description to get along with people, play well with others, and not rock the boat. Nevertheless, there are times when a therapist with a sufficient sense of mission who genuinely cares about underserved clients needs to stop worrying about rubbing some people—particularly the powers that be—the wrong way.

Constancy and Permanence: Introduction

Photo of Holly van Gulden

This is the first in a series about "Constancy" and "Permanence" as it applies to child development. These video clips are good for any parent to watch but should be of particular interest to parents of children who were adopted from foster care or internationally. Many children have been traumatized and as a result experience attachment struggles. Since 1985, Holly van Gulden has been teaching and counseling adoptive and foster parents and training adoption professionals. She has worked throughout the United States, England, Scotland, and Canada. In addition, for over fifteen years, she has codirected Adoptive Family Counseling Center.
We highly recommend this series for educators who want to understand children with attachment and trauma issues.


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Constancy: Video 1: What Makes Constancy?

Constancy: Video 1 with Holly Van Guilden


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Constancy: Video 2: Where does it start?

Holly Van Gulden explains where constancy starts.


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Constancy: Video 3: What is a common symptom of a lack of constancy?

Lying is the most common symptom of the lack of constancy. And it makes perfect sense for a child who has experienced loss and early trauma - Watch!


The video clips go from Contancy 3 to Video 5. We have not located the missing video in the sequence. If someone has a link to the video, please contact us.

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Constancy Video 5: language and tools to build constancy

Holly Van Gulden talks about language or tools to use to build constancy?

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Constancy Video 6: The Brain's Perception of Trauma

Holly Van Gulden talks about research in the field of constancy and the way the brain responds to trauma


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Constancy Video 7: How to help children who experienced trauma.

Holly Van Gulden explains approaches to help children who experienced trauma.


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Constancy Video 8: How to treat a lack of constancy

Holly Van Gulden describes the treatments for constancy.


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Permanence Video 2: What is Permanence?

Holly van Gulden explains permanence


Go to Permanence Video 3