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    Default Introducing myself

    Hi, I have 7-year-old twin boys. One of them has been having learning difficulties, and yesterday his school's specialists met with dh and me and told us he shows signs of adhd. I'm not surprised, given his behavior, but there was always the hope that he was just extra spirited. Now that there's an "official" diagnosis, I'm trying to learn more about how we can help him, including possible meds - although dh is against that.

    The school has devised an IEP for him, and everyone involved is wonderfully supportive. As an October baby, he really should be in first grade, but the situation is complicated by his twin brother having outstanding academic abilities. We didn't want to hold him back, and we didn't want them to be in different grades, so we've pushed JJ into a grade he's not ready for. Fortunately, he is receiving tons of support - this school is awesome and they understand our twin dilemma.

    Anyway, thank you all for sharing your experiences. I'm learning things already.

    Nancy
    JJ and Leo 10/20/01

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    Default Hi I'm a twin mom also and new here

    We have similar dynamics. My twin daughters have an August 1st birthday which makes them on the young side for their grade which is second. I also have one that is gifted and way ahead and one which just started meds for ADHD and has struggled with school.So alot of challenges which I'm trying to work through and love having the support of others that have been there before and can share their experience.

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    Yes, our issues are very similar. How do your girls get along? Are they competitive? Leo could read by the time he was three, and my dh thinks that JJ was so intimidated by this - because JJ was the more outgoing and talkative one in the beginning - that he stopped trying altogether. In preschool, kinder and first grade the teachers kept saying he was just not ready to read yet and to let him go at his own pace. Now we're in a very aggressively academic public school and they're saying it's a processing problem. Had it been diagnosed earlier, we could have addressed it earlier before his insecurities set in further. Oh well.

    Where in California do you live? We just moved to the Bay Area.

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    I didn't think the school sysetm could give a diagnosis like that. I would take him to a specialist for confirmation. Its great that they are willing to give an IEP.

    good luck
    karen

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    Default Nancy

    The school system would not give us a diagnosis without an IEP which we are waiting for. I took Ariana to a private physcologist who did about 10 hours of testing as well as reviewed questionaires from me ,her Dad and her teacher.That is where we got the diagnosis but I think the school agreed with me when we had our meeting that is required prior to an IEP that there was something going on.We couldn't put our finger on it exactly. Although like you I feel bad that she suffered for two years but I'm trying to look at the positive that we could have gone on like this alot longer if I wasn't so agressive and proactive. Her self esteem is damaged but hopefully with the right treatment being she is so young she will not have long term damage from this. Some kids go for many years without anything done.

    She is very competitive with her sister and I think she definately feels bad that everything comes so easy to her.Sophia has to make absolutely no effort and everything is 100% score. The only time she does get one or 2 things wrong is because she has a habit of rushing through her work. Additionally Sophia is also a very good athlete and the handball champ of her grade and even beats much older kids often .Ariana is much more social and friendlier but she hasn't really shined like her sister. I make a huge effort to encourage her and praise her and since she likes art and is good at it I take her to classes for that.

    We live in Southern California.
    Last edited by susan in ca; 01-30-2009 at 12:58 AM. Reason: left out something

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