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    Reese14 is offline INCIIDer - A Community Creator
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    Default Another OT gone

    Welp, it was a matter of time. DS is oppositional. VERY oppositional. People just don't get it. They don't realize they cannot "break" him and ride him and win the battles. Most people don't have a clue that he needs to be positively redirected. The only people who have a clue are people with kids like him-so few and far between.

    I pay $120 out of pocket, each visit, for a highly recommended OT. One time he flipped out, was biting her, destroyed the room. I talked to him about it and took him back and a few visits were fine. Well, today it happened again. It's a long story and I don't think she handled it well. LIke at all. Common sense should tell these "specialists" that when a child with oppositional issues gets oppositional, it is better to change the subject and positively redirect them then to fight for one hour with the child where they have to resort to holding them down.

    I will not pay $120 for someone to fight with my child. I'm done. I'll just work with him at home and use that money for a babysitter (the one and only that knows how to handle him) and get 12 hours of a break for that money.

    What makes me mad, I think, is that THREE years of preschool and they had NONE of these issues. They knew had to host a nuturing, loving environment and knew he needed positive redirection. Every teacher, all three of them, figured him out from day one and there were no issues.

    Family doesn't get him and his issues. I am always stressed with interactions with people because they end up flipping out on him. So many people have flipped out on him it makes me want to cry when I think of it. So many people we have written off because I refuse to let them near him. They can't keep their hands off of him so they are out of the picture.

    What a joke that the school he is going to says he is "fine." Just wait and see when he gets a teacher that doesn't get him. He'll be kicked out of school. It's a matter of time.

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    Default Oh gosh, it breaks my heart

    I am so sorry, practically in tears here..... It sounds like you made the right choice about the OT. No need to spend your good money trying to train them how to do their job right.

    Susan

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    Ugh that stinks - I am sorry it didn't work.

    I did a lot of the activities in the Out of Synch child has fun. We also invested in a bounce house ($150) and it was the BEST thing we ever did. The hoppity hops work well too.

    Let me know if you need any other suggetions - we did two years of intensive OT at home and with a therapist and now I have a new kid.

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    I'm sorry. The more you can do at home the better. many many hugs
    karen

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    Default Thanks everyone

    I'm still upset by this because every corner I turn there is an issue. But yet some (okay, FEW) people "get" him and there are no issues. I have been on the verge of tears for two days because I feel like I am way in over my head and it isn't getting better.

    He's been telling me he has an issue with a boy at camp being mean to him. I talked to the teacher today to ask if everything was okay and was hoping that my DS wasn't instigating anything. She mentioned the boy has some issues and my son was not instigating or anything like that. What relief because I felt like it was another thing that was going to blow up. She did say there were a few times that he (and others) weren't listening during a certain activity and they were going to talk to him and she said she wanted to be the one to talk to him because she understands him. Thank goodness. It was an issue, she nipped it in the bud (nicely) and says he listens well now and it never exploded into anything more. I just wish more people in the world could understand him and his nature. He truly has one of the kindest little hearts and cares about others so much but people can't look past the oppositional side of him.

    I think I just need a really good, long cry.

    Thanks for being here and allowing me to vent.

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