Thanks to you all for your suggestions. I approached the teacher and set up a conference for next week. There is a new math tutor for the 4th grade this year apparently. I asked dd how she would feel about that when I got home tonight, and she said "I like her, she's nice!" Whoo Whoo!! So, we'll start that, too. Couldn't hurt!

Thank you all so much for your welcome and support. I look forward to having a place to come to as I work through this with my dd.