[NOTE The Recording, Handout and Notes for the April 30th Webinar with Helen Adrienne]
The range of feelings that get evoked on the Parenting Holidays is wide and deep, indeed. Whether you're a woman or a man, Mother's Day, Father's Day or both can be fraught with emotion.
Aside from the fact that this is a holiday manufactured by Hallmark, in a perfect world, parents deserved to be honored. But when society conspires that a day in May and June are when families are required to gather—lovely as it may be—there are a whole swirl of reasons why this gathering can be torturous for you.
There are deeper, more personal and poignant reasons for the day to be fraught with emotion than the confusion of wanting to/not wanting to participate in a family get together. Among the feelings that might arise are:
And it’s not like these feelings wouldn’t plague you on any random day. It’s just that these feelings do not mix well with the expectation of a jovial family Bar B Q.
Knowledge is power. Might any of these issues be wreaking havoc with your emotions?
Personal psychodynamics flow both from our nature and how we are nurtured. As a rule, early imprints come through life with us and may be contributing to what can disrupt Mother’s Day and Father’s Day. You may be pleasantly surprised to realize that by giving voice to the above issues (which might be lurking underneath your conscious awareness), you rob the inner demon of its power.
Besides talking these issues through, how to get relief on a day when this pot pourri of emotions intensifies?
Within every crisis an opportunity waits. These parenting days are a chance to find ways to become a new, improved version of yourself. In the final analysis, you can be among those who come out of the experience with both a family and a clearer sense of your strength and capacities.
Keep hope alive!
Helen is a beloved INCIID Professional Member helping many, many people suffering infertility and pregnancy loss.
Helen Adrienne, LCSW, BCD
Psychotherapist, Clinical Hypnotherapist,
Practitioner of Mind/Body Therapy
Author: On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility