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Thank you for your open letter to INCIID about your IVF Journey of hope. We appreciate sharing one of life's most difficult undertakings with others in order that they too may see some light at the end of the fertility tunnel. If you know someone struggling or want to help INCIID reach more couples, please email us.
When I heard couples discussing their attempts at pregnancy and IVF, I said, with contempt in my voice,, “Why don’t you just adopt.” Yes, I was one of “those people”.
I was adopted, and it worked out fine for my parents and me. I believed that people choosing IVF were self-centered and arrogant about the necessity to pass on their genes to offspring. I admit I took the attempts to create a family through treatment personally—as if people who choose IVF were somehow disparaging or devaluing my non-biological relationship to my parents and sister.
As a young woman I learned about fertility with a surprise pregnancy at twenty-three. My first pregnancy experience came when I had unprotected sex on day 10 of my cycle, after coming off birth control pills. The condom we used failed and I became pregnant. My pregnancy was complication-free. We planned to have a second child but ultimately our relationship ended.
I did not worry about conceiving another child because my first pregnancy was easy to conceive and carry. I was in no hurry waiting for “Mr. Right” so together we could expand our family.
First, no matter how much it the guys think it is, women always have a more difficult path. But for a man, there is still real difficulty. Because man will never carry a pregnancy, there is somewhat of a separation between the male perspective and the female perspective on infertility. With that in mind, let me share a little bit of my side of the struggle with infertility. About six months to a year after we married, my wife and I began the process of building our family. After a year we started asking questions as to why we had not yet gotten pregnant.
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Walking into work with a coffee in my hand, I prepare for the day. We get a variety of patients which is what I love about my job. We see so many patients and each person has a different story. I cannot wait to see what happens for each one of them.
My first task for the day is to read my email. I check email often and often respond late into the evening. When I check again I find someone sent me a picture of their new baby, another letting me know their pregnancy test was negative and another ecstatic but worried with a positive pregnancy test. There are the ups and the downs. We are consummate professionals but still as we watch you going through the emotional and taxing fertility journey, we empathize with all the different emotions and the pain. This fertility excursion is a tough one but we continue with lots of hugs, medical advice and even tears of joy and sorrow
