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A Proposed Tennessee Bill in State Houses Proposes Any Child Produced by Artificial Insemination to be Illegitimate

Different Kinds of Families


Different Kinds of FamiliesWhat are these TN House and Senate bills really about? Let’s take a look more closely at artificial insemination (AI or IUI). AI is a relatively "low-tech" ART (Assisted Reproductive Technology) that deposits washed sperm directly into the uterus, bypassing cervical mucus and depositing the sperm in closer proximity to the fallopian tubes, where fertilization occurs. Used to bypass hostile cervical mucus and to overcome sperm count and motility problems. See Dr. Sherbahn's article on IUI for more information.

INCIID believes in people to make personal and private decisions – to create all kinds of families, families with different kinds of needs, different cultures different children, special needs and disabilities. Building a family is a very personal decision and that privacy is a right guaranteed in the United States Constitution. Don’t let any official tell you differently. That’s a right about to be tested in Tennessee.

Tennessee’s current code 68-3-306 provides that children born through artificial insemination are legitimate children when husband and wife consent. "A child born to a married woman as a result of artificial insemination, with consent of the married woman's husband, is deemed to be the legitimate child of the husband and wife." (TCA 68-3-306)

Tennessee’s Terri Lynn Weaver (R-Lancaster) of the House (HB 1406) and Joey Hensley (R-Hohenwald) of the Senate (SB 1153) propose bills seeking to label and classify all children born through (IUI) artificial insemination as illegitimate children. ART techniques include, donor eggs, donor sperm, surrogacy, and any procedure involving in vitro fertilization (IVF). Senator Hensley’s version would repeal TCA 68-3-306 declaring children born through AI/IUI “illegitimate”. There is no reason not to expect this to cover all ART procedures as well using any donor process (donor eggs, donor sperm).

Saddling children with the label “illegitimate” is not only cruel, traumatizing and not in their best interests but could also affect services they are entitled to receive. Children are not yoyo’s or ping pong balls to be bounced about by would-be reproductive sheriffs or the courts. Children are the future. They should be cherished, loved and provided opportunities whether they have a mom and dad, two moms, two dads or a single parent. Children should NOT be used to discriminate.

I think those of you in Tennessee should ask what kind of nefarious agenda is afoot and do Weaver and Hensley represent the kind of world you want for your children?  What’s next “children that were adopted” or “immigrant children adopted internationally”. Could this be more about marriage equality and stripping rights of parents if they happen to be the same sex? These bills are a very bad news for citizens and residents of Tennessee. Call your representative and tell them vote NO on SB 1153 and HB 1406 Send Weaver and Hensley a note and let them hear what you think of their bills.

“The emphasis must be on the right to privacy and reproductive control.”
Supreme Court Justice Ruth Bader Ginsburg

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Terri Lynn Weaver (R-Lancaster)

301 6th Avenue North
Suite 105 War Memorial
Nashville TN 37243
Phone: (615) 741-2192

Joey Hensley (R-Hohenwald)

District Address
855 Summertown Highway
Hohenwald, TN 38462

E-Mail Address

Nashville Address
301 6th Avenue North
Suite 309 War Memorial Bldg.
Nashville, TN 37243
Phone (615) 741-3100


2015 Online Angel Award

2015 Heather Bruce Thiermann Online Angel Award

We live in a truly digital age. It's nearly impossible to do anything or go anywhere without a smartphone or computerized or generated something.  The early nineties was a time when for all practical purposes – the Internet as we know it today was in its infancy.  Today there are all kinds of digital scams, hackers lurking around every cyber corner and a lot of cyber bullying. But there are also many acts of kindness, paying it forward and lots of interactive success stories. We think the time has come to make once again that the community of people who use the Internet for the benefit of others. These are the people (including corporations within the reproductive and adoption industry) that go above and beyond to help others. They pay it forward with selfless determination to help others.

In 2015, INCIID will present INCIID's Online Angel Award in several categories to an individual, a professional and/or a corporation. These are the people that use the Internet to give back to the community.  Do you know someone that deserves an award for being an ONLINE Angel?

  • Details about how to nominate – coming soon!


The History of the Online Angel Award

Heather's story is a triumphant example of how going on-line can not only change lives, but enhance them. Her story shows that friendships made via computers can be as rewarding as any, even if participants never meet face-to-face. But most of all, it demonstrates how experiences in Cyberspace can be exhilarating and sorrowful, and just as in "real life," love, support, encouragement and shoulders to lean on can be found.

Heather was a popular participant on the Infertility Bulletin Boards started through AOL at the beginning of the 1990’s. She and her husband, Steven, were in the IVF program at The New York Hospital-Cornell Medical Center in New York City. Heather struggled with massive uterine fibroids that prevented her from conceiving, but she was positive and hopeful despite eight years of infertility. After five surgeries, she finally became pregnant following her second in vitro fertilization attempt.

At this time, Heather moved on to the "Pregnant After Infertility" bulletin board on AOL, a subject created by INCIID cofounder, Nancy Hemenway. She shared all the fear and excitement of finally being pregnant with others on the board. As time neared for her planned C-section (previous surgeries made this necessary), her posts on the bulletin board became increasingly excited, and nervous. Then, just hours before the long-awaited time on January 8, Heather's C-section was canceled because of intense snow storms on the East Coast. Her doctor couldn't get to the hospital.

Two days later, on Wednesday, January 10, Heather and Steven became the proud parents of a beautiful and healthy baby girl they named Tara. Steven said he had never seen such a beautiful look of complete happiness in those brief moments when Heather laid eyes on daughter. Heather saw Steven holding Tara than fell into a coma. She never regained consciousness, and thirteen days later, Heather died.

This terrible loss has been retold throughout Cyberspace and people on all the on-line services and the Internet reacted with shock and sorrow. You didn't have to know Heather to love her for all that she did to support others on-line.

INCIID established an award to recognize the contributions of an individual or group whose participation on-line has served to support, encourage and educate others about infertility. It is named the "Heather Bruce Thiermann Online Angel Award," and Heather was the first recipient, posthumously honored. Steven accepted the award in March, 1996 at INCIID’s conference.

At INCIID, we continue the mission to educate and support infertility consumers through online education and the “From INCIID the Heart IVF Scholarship Program”. INCIID works very hard to educate others, especially about their options regarding IVF. helps individuals and couples explore their family-building options. INCIID provides current information and immediate support regarding the diagnosis, treatment, and prevention of infertility and pregnancy loss, and offers guidance to those considering adoption.

Please contact INCIID if you are interested in serving on or helping on a committee to select the INCIID Online Angel Award



Table of Contents 2006 Resource Directory and Handbook

Alternative & Complementary Therapies


Brian Acacio, M.D.
Acupuncture and IVF
Amy Brunette
Physical Therapy Treatment for Infertility
Randine Lewis, Ph.D.
Does the Observer Dictate the Outcome?


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ART & Infertility


Joe Massey, M.D.
Cryopreservation: Recent Advances Improves an Important Aspect of IVF
W.A. Saleh, M.D. and Geoffrey Sher, M.D.
Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome (PCOS) and IVF; The Need to Customize Ovulation Induction Protocols
I. Lane Wong, M.D.
Polycystic Ovary Syndrome (PCOS), Insulin Resistance (IR), & the metabolic Syndrome:  An Update
Scott Slayden, M.D. and Joe Massey, M.D.
Achieving a Successful Outcome Through Intrauterine Insemination and Ovulation Induction
Alexander Dlugi, M.D.
Choosing the Optimal Day for Embryo Transfer
David E. Tourgeman, M.D.
De-Mystifying Fertility Medications
Daniel A. Potter, M.D.
MicroSort©:  Technology Separates the Boys from the Girls
Steven C. Presser, M.D.
Obesity and Reproductive Health
Joe Massey, M.D.
IVM:  IVF With Just One Shot
Hugh D Melnick, M.D.
A New Look at the Diagnosis and Treatment of Subfertility
Bradford Kolb, M.D.
Preserving Reproductive Options in Oncology Patients
Mory Nouriani, M.D.  
Infertility Issues in Cancer Patients
John Storment, M.D.
Obesity and Reproduction
Carolyn Givens, M.D
Novel Protocol for Poorly-Responding IVF Patients
Edward L Marut, M.D.
Last Ditch Efforts: Tactics to Use Your Own Eggs when Donor Egg Seems Inevitable



Coping with Infertility


Helen Adrienne, LCSW, BCD
All Kinds of Tears
Helen Adrienne, LCSW, BCD
Experiencing, Really Experiencing, In Vitro Fertilization



Financial Considerations


Tricia L. Campbell
Affording Your Fertility
Nancy Hemenway
From INCIID the Heart



Genetics & Infertility


Jeffrey Klein, M.D.
Preimplantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD): A New Option For Patients With Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Philip E. Chenette, M.D.
Stem Cells and Fertility
Lawrence Werlin, M.D.
Pre-Implantation Genetic Diagnosis (PGD) as Both a Diagnostic and Therapeutic Tool in Assisted Reproductive Technology (ART)
Elissa Levin, M.S.,CGC
Genetic Testing for Infertility and Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Donald Evenson, M.D.
Updated Views and Data on Sperm DNA Fragmentation and Pregnancy Outcomes



Legal Considerations


Tamera L. McNulty, Attorney
Surrogacy Contracts
Diane Michelsen, Attorney
Finding Your Assisted Reproductive Program



Male Infertility


Carolyn Givens, M.D.
Sperm Boosters – Fact or Fiction?
Marc Goldstein, M.D.
Varicocele:  Overview & Diagnosis
Marc Goldstein, M.D.
Varicocele - Surgery & Therapeutic Alternatives
Z. Peter Nagy, M.D. and Dorothy Mitchell-Leef, M.D.
New Technologies in ICSI
Brian Schreiber, M.D.
How and Why Combination L-Carnitine/Acetylcarnitine Therapy Optimizes Sperm Health



Pregnancy & Loss


I. Lane Wong, M.D.
Making Sense of the Early Pregnancy Ultrasound
Carolyn B. Coulam, M.D. and Nancy P. Hemenway
Immunology May Be Key to Pregnancy Loss:
      Part I:  An Introduction to Pregnancy Loss
      Part II:  The Basics of Immunology & Pregnancy Loss
      Part III.  Tests Available to Diagnose Immunologic Causes of Pregnancy Loss
      Part IV.  Treatment for Immunologic Causes of Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Peter Ahlering, M.D.
Embryoscopy in the Evaluation of Clinical Miscarriages
Michele Evans, M.D.
Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Daniel Levine, M.D.
The Inherited Thrombophilias and Recurrent Miscarriages
Michael S. Swanson, M.D.
Thrombophilia and Recurrent Pregnancy Loss
Spencer Richlin, M.D.
Premature Ovarian Failure
Kathy Trumbull, M.D.
Some Lifestyle Issues to Consider for Your Reproductive Health



Research, Ethics  & Statistics


DanielRey Kilbride
Cavallini Study Poster
Diahn Oakley and Jeff Keenan, M.D.
How IVF Patients may be Impacted by Embryonic Stem Cell Research:  a Private Choice in a Public Controversy
Geoffrey Sher, M.D.
Oversight of Reporting IVF Statistics Sorely Lacking: Is a Crisis Looming?
Sam Thatcher, M.D.
Reading Between the Line in the CDC IVF Clinic Reports



Third Party Reproduction & Adoption


Joel Batzofin, M.D. and Daniel Levine, M.D.
Third Party Parenting
Diane Michelsen, Attorney
Ten Factors for a Successful Pregnancy with a Gestational Carrier
Robert Boostanfar, M.D. 
What to Expect, When You’re Expecting in Your 40’s and 50’s!





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2006 Art Resource Directory & Handbook

Welcome to our launching page for the 2006 ART Resource Directory!

Published in the Fall of 2005, this annual resource handbook features 53 articles by industry experts on infertility and family building options.

Currently we are continuing our 2006 FALL fundraising promotion: Receive the CD version of this resource as our gift - which includes all the articles, as well as the professional listing directory - when you make a one-time $ 28 donation to INCIID.  After you donate, please send us an email requesting your CD. We will send the CD in a plain envelope to the address you enter on the donation form. Remember, your donations are tax deductible and help us to continue making great programs and materials available to those who need them.

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Infertility Books: Miscellaneous



We are rennovating all of the recommended reading section on the INCIID Website. We will be adding new books, and other reading suggestions. Please contact us with your recommendations and suggestions.


A Guide to Reproduction: Social Issues and Human Concerns by Irina Pollard - Paperback (October 1994) Cambridge Univ Pr (Pap Txt); ISBN: 0521429250

Ark Baby by Liz Jensen - Paperback - 288 pages (June 1998) Overlook Press; ISBN: 0879518332

A Matter of Trust : The Guide to Gestational Surrogacy by Gail Dutton - Paperback - 217 pages First edition (July 1997) Clouds Publishing; ISBN: 0965596605

Barren in the Promised Land: Childless Americans and the Pursuit of Happiness by Elaine Tyler May - 336 pages Reprint edition (April 1997) Harvard Univ Pr; ISBN: 0674061829

Confinements: Fertility and Infertility in Contemporary Culture by Helena Michie, Naomi Cahn (Contributor) - Paperback - 224 pages (July 1997) Rutgers Univ Press; ISBN: 0813524334

Conquering Infertility: Medical Challenges and Moral Dilemmas (Changing Family (New York, N.Y.) by Elizabeth L. Marshall - Reading level: Young Adult School & Library Binding - 160 pages (October 1997) Franklin Watts, Incorporated; ISBN: 0531113442

Crossing the Moon by Paulette Bates Alden - Paperback - 304 pages (March 1998) Penguin USA (Paper); ISBN: 0140272097

Crossing the Moon: A Journey Through Infertility by Paulette Bates Alden - Hardcover - 295 pages (September 1996) Hungry Mind Pub; ISBN: 1886913080

Infertility and Patriarchy: The Cultural Politics of Gender and Family Life in Egypt by Marcia C. Inhorn - Paperback - 296 pages (February 1996) University of Pennsylvania Press; ISBN: 0812214242

Life and Death Decisions: Help in Making Tough Choices About Infertility, Abortion, Birth Defects, and AIDS by Robert D. Orr, David L. Schiedermayer, David B. Biebel, David B. Brebel - Paperback Reprint edition (July 1996) Baker Book House; ISBN: 080105270X

Mega Sex by Francine, Dr. Beck, Francis Beck - Paperback - 352 pages (November 1997) Excelsior Music Pub Co; ISBN: 0935016082

Not Yet Pregnant: Infertile Couples in Contemporary America by Larry L. Greil, Arthur L. Griel - Paperback - 243 pages (August 1991) Rutgers Univ Press; ISBN: 0813516838

Quest for Conception : Gender, Infertility, and Egyptian Medical Traditions by Marcia C. Inhorn. Paperback - 441 pages (September 1994) University of Pennsylvania Press; ISBN: 0812215281

The Empty Cradle: Infertility in America from Colonial Times to the Present (Henry E. Sigerist Series in the History of Medicine) by Margaret Marsh, Wanda Ronner Hardcover, 326 pages Published by Johns Hopkins Univ; Pr Publication date: March 1, 1996 ISBN: 0801852285

With Child in Mind: Studies of the Personal Encounter With Infertility (Studies in Health, Illness and Caregiving) by Margarete Sandelowski Paperback - 303 pages (May 1993) University of Pennsylvania Press; ISBN: 0812214153

Infertility Books: Pregnancy & Parenting After Infertility

Pregnancy and Parenting After Infertility


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The Long-Awaited Stork : A Guide to Parenting After Infertility by Ellen Sarasohn Glazer Our Price: $12.95 - Paperback - 300 pages 2nd Rev edition (April 1998) Jossey-Bass Publishers; ISBN: 0787940534


Will It Hurt the Baby? The Save Use of Medications During Pregnancy and Breastfeeding, by Richard S. Abrams, M.D. Published by Addison Wesley, ISBN 0-201-51809-0. While not a book considered particularly relevant to infertility treatment, this book is invaluable for those in treatment who wonder what medications might have an impact during those most vulnerable first weeks of pregnancy. Contains clear explanations of ramifications of use for hundreds of prescription and over-the-counter medications, as well as FDA pregnancy risk categories.

Infertility Books: Secondary Infertility

Secondary Infertility


Wanting Another Child: Coping With Secondary Infertility by Harriet Fishman Simons Hardcover, 190 pages Published by Lexington Books Publication date: March 1, 1995 ISBN: 0029289386

Wanting Another Child: Coping With Secondary Infertility by Harriet Fishman Simons, Harriet F. Simons. Paperback - 224 pages 2 Ed edition (October 1998) Jossey-Bass Publishers; ISBN: 0787943746

Infertility Books: Emotional Support

Emotional Support


We are rennovating all of the recommended reading section on the INCIID Website. We will be adding new books, and other reading suggestions. Please contact us with your recommendations and suggestions.


Healing the Infertile Family: Strengthening Your Relationship in the Search for Parenthood by Gay Becker, Gaylene Becker, Robert D. Nachtigall - Paperback - 335 pages Reprint edition (November 1997) Univ California Press; ISBN: 0520211804

Infertility Counseling by Sue Emmy Jennings (Editor) - Paperback - 294 pages (June 1995) Blackwell Science Inc; ISBN: 0632024453

Pennies from Heaven: 101 Meditations for Couples Trying to Get Pregnant by Frances Stone, Philip Stone. Paperback - 176 pages (June 1998) Penguin USA (Paper); ISBN: 014025529X

Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Infertile and Start Living Again by Jean W. Carter *NR Edition Paperback, 139 pages Published by Perspectives Press ISBN: 0944934013. Dr. Jean Carter, an obstetrician-gynecologist, and her husband an English professor, coauthored this book. Together they have pesonally wrestled with the many issues of infertility and have resolved to live "childfree."

The Ache for a Child by Debra Bridwell Paperback, 298 pages Published by Chariot Victor Books Publication date: April 1, 1994. ISBN: 1564762483

What to Expect When You're Experiencing Infertility: How to Cope With the Emotional Crisis and Survive by Debby Peoples, Harriette Rovner Ferguson W.W. Norton & Company; ISBN: 0393041042

What to Expect When You're Experiencing Infertility : How to Cope With the Emotional Crisis and Survive by Debby Peoples, Harriette Rovner Ferguson. Hardcover - 297 pages (February 1998) W.W. Norton & Company; ISBN: 0393041042

When Empty Arms Become a Heavy Burden : Encouragement for Couples Facing Infertility by Sandra Glahn, William Cutrer (Contributor) Paperback - 240 pages (June 1997) Broadman & Holman Publishers; ISBN: 0805461272

Infertility Books: Male Infertility

Male Infertility


We are rennovating all of the recommended reading section on the INCIID Website. We will be adding new books, and other reading suggestions. Please contact us with your recommendations and suggestions.


Counseling in Male Infertility by Sammy Lee Paperback (September 1996) Blackwell Science Inc; ISBN: 063203906X

Evaluation and Treatment of the Infertile Male by Grace M. Centola (Editor), Kenneth Ginsburg (Editor) Hardcover, 322 pages Published by Cambridge Univ Pr (Short) Publication date: August 1996 ISBN: 0521450594

Helping the Stork : The Choices and Challenges of Donor Insemination by Carol Frost Vercollone, Heidi Moss, Robert Moss Paperback - 302 pages (October 1997) Macmillan General Reference; ISBN: 002861917X

Love Again, Live Again: New Treatments, New Hope for Today's Couples Facing Male Impotence by Steven Morganstern, Allen E. Abrahams (Contributor) - Hardcover 2nd edition (March 1994) Prentice Hall Trade; ISBN: 0135407583

Making Love Again : Regaining Sexual Potency Through the New Injection Treatment by J. Francois Eid, Carol A. Pearce - Paperback - 160 pages (August 1993) Brunner/Mazel; ISBN: 0876307225

Overcoming Impotence : A Doctor's Proven Guide to Regaining Sexual Vitality by Steven Morganstern, Allen E. Abrahams (Contributor)- Paperback - 352 pages 2 edition (March 1994) Prentice Hall Trade; ISBN: 0131469789

Overcoming Impotence : A Doctor's Proven Guide to Regaining Sexual Vitality by Steven, M.D. Morganstern, Allen, Ph.D. Abrahams, Allen E. Abrahams (Contributor) - Hardcover - 352 pages 2nd edition (March 1994) Prentice Hall Trade; ISBN: 0131469606

Reclaiming Male Sexuality: A Guide to Potency, Vitality and Prowess by George Ryan, Arnold Melman (Introduction) Paperback (January 1997) M Evans & Co; ISBN: 0871318091

The Impotence Sourcebook by Christopher P. Steidle - Hardcover - 224 pages (April 1998) Lowell House; ISBN: 1565658760

The Virility Solution: Everything You Need to Know About the Medically Proven Potency Pill That Can Restore and Enhance Male Sexuality by Steven Lamm, Gerald Secor Couzens. Hardcover - 256 pages (June 1998) Simon & Schuster; ISBN: 0684847809

Adoption Books


We are rennovating all of the recommended reading section on the INCIID Website. We will be adding new books, and other reading suggestions. Please contact us with your recommendations and suggestions.

This is taken from: A Selective List of Essential Decision Making Tools Designed for Just-Thinking-About-It Beginners - by Pat Johnston. Pat will take you through this list step by step in the order she suggests you read the books.


After Infertility: Should We Adopt?

Reading each of the books below will give you a framework and tools for thinking about ending treatment as a separate issue from deciding whether or not to live childfree or build your family by adoption. Though many people will have presented adoption to you as if it is a "next step" after treatment, in much the same way as they might have suggested that Metrodin or Pergonal were "next steps" after clomiphene treatment. But adoption is really a very separate issue from infertility treatment. It needs and deserves its own decision making process.


Attachment and Early Child Trauma

Building the Bonds of Attachment: Awakening Love in Deeply Troubled Children by Daniel A. Hughes 
While this book focuses on a composite story of a domestically adopted little girl who was abused and neglected in her pre-adoptive life, Dan Hughes teaches critically important lessons about parenting children who have experienced traumatic loss prior to adoption. The parenting philosophy shared through this book is invaluable. It educates about early child trauma. The first chapter is difficult because it describes the little girl's pre-adoptive life, but the rest of the book is easier to read. It is ultimately an incredibly optimistic book full of hope. Dan Hughes is a brilliant therapist, who has retired from private practice and is currently traveling around the U.S. and internationally training other therapists to work with traumatized and attachment disordered children. His main focus is on foster and adopted children.  He has developed an approach to therapy called dyadic developmental therapy, which I think is the most credible, appropriate, and non-fringe way of treating many children's struggle with trauma and attachment issues.


Adoption After Infertility

Adoption Recommended Reading here
This is a good starting point list.

Adopting After Infertility by Patricia Irwin Johnston (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1992). An extensive three part handbook for couples considering or pursuing adoption. Section one examines infertility and making all kinds of related decisions. Section two explores all of the issues to be decided in adoption--agency or independent, infant or older child, international or domestic, open or confidential-- and includes guidance on choosing professionals and services which meet your needs. Section three explores life after adoption in a manner important for pre-adopters to explore: talking to kids, dealing with the world at large, infertility revisited, etc. This book replaces by updating and vastly expanding the material in Johnston's earlier An Adoptor's Advocate (Perspectives Press, 1984) which is now out of print. This comprehensive decision-making guide also fits in each of the resource categories which follow, but will not be listed there.

Sweet Grapes: How to Stop Being Infertile and Start Living Again by Mike and Jean Carter (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1989, with a revised version coming in the Winter of 1998.) An infertile couple--she an ob/gyn and he an English professor-- describe their method of learning to communicate with one another that ultimately led them to stop treatment and decide to embrace with joy a childfree life-style.

Motherhood Deferred by Anne Taylor Fleming (New York: G.P. Putnam's Sons, 1994) Journalist and feminist Taylor Fleming explores her delay of childbearing and subsequent long and ultimately fruitless high tech struggle with infertility and her decision not to adopt. A provocative and important view for those considering leaving treatment.

The Whole Life Adoption Book by Jayne Schooler (Colorado Springs: Pinon Press, 1993) is, as one reviewer has called it, a pre-adopt course on paper, introducing (though not covering thoroughly) multiple issues of importance.

Adopting: The Tapestry Guide by Laurie Wallmark (Ringoes, NJ: Tapestry Books, 1997) An introductory booklet covering the adoption basics.


What Type of Child?

Having read the books above, if you feel more inclined toward adoption, you will want to learn about the children available for adoption. These books and magazines will introduce you to special issues to be considered in advance before deciding whether or not you would like to adopt a newborn, a toddler, an older child, a child with special needs, a child who matches you ethnically or not.

Launching a Baby's Adoption: Practical Strategies for Parents and Professionals by Patricia Irwin Johnston (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1997) a guide to the "expectant" months leading up to and the first year following the placement of a baby under a year of age. Includes preparing self and family, promoting bonding, exploring breastfeeding, and more. ISBN: 0944934161

Toddler Adoption: The Weaver's Craft by Mary Hopkins-Best (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1997) An exploration of what to expect when adopting a child older than one year but younger than school age--a toddler. Advice for preparing one's self and transitioning the child and unique issues of parenting a child who arrives during toddlerhood. ISBN: 0944934218

A Child's Journey through Placement by Vera I. Fahlberg, M.D. (Indianapolis: Perspectives Press, 1991). Pediatrician and therapist Fahlberg helps both parents and professionals understand how the experience of being moved impacts on children. Provides a clear description of the attachment cycle and how to support attachment in children who have left important early caretakers. ISBN: 0944934110

Helping Children Cope with Separation and Loss (revised edition) by Claudia Jewett Jarratt (Boston: Harvard Common Press, 1994). Another valuable resource for those considering an older child. ISBN: 1558320512

Adopting the Hurt Child: Hope for Families with Special Needs Kids by Dr. Gregory Keck and Regina Kopecky (Colorado Springs: Pinon Press, 1995) An honest and accessible exploration of the challenges faced by families adopting children with difficult histories by one of the most intriguing educators in the field of attachment issues.


Transracial Adoption by the staff of Pact (San Francisco: Pact, 1997) A manual of articles and materials compiled to prepare families for adopting across racial lines. Available only through Pact ( 3450 Sacramento St Ste 239, San Francisco CA 94118. Phone 415-221-6957

Are Those Kids Yours? American Families with Children Adopted from Other Countries by Cheri Register (New York: The Free Press, 1991). A thorough, practical, down to earth discussion about the realities of and guide to parenting a child born outside the U.S. ISBN: 0029257506


The Post, from the Parent Network for the Post Institutionalized Child (PO Box 613, Meadowlands, PA 15347; phone 412-222-1766, email will be particularly valuable for those considering adopting a child who will come from an international orphanage. Institutionalized children have unique issues which must be quickly identified and addressed in order to be successfully managed. Too many agencies and facilitators are unaware of these issues, and that's where PNPIC can help parents and parents-to-be! $20 annually.


Openness in Adoption

And how about communicating with a prospective child's birthfamily? Before you can decide to adopt, this is something to think through fairly carefully. Open adoption is becoming more and more common, but do you understand what this really means, or are you only as literate about open and confidential adoption as the last horrific news story about either one?


Open Adoption Birthparent (R Squared Press, 721 Hawthorne Ave, Royal Oak, MI 48067) is a newsletter for birthparents and adoptive parents in open adoptions which is edited and published by Birthparent Newsletter. subscription price (annually): $36.00 Brenda Romanchik. The web site is at

How to Open an Adoption by Patricia Martinez Dorner (Royal Oka, MI: R-Squared Press, 1997.) A guide to opening an adoption that was begun confidentially, written by one of open adoption's pioneers. ISBN:0964103583

Adoption without Fear edited by James. L. Gritter (San Antonio: Corona Publishing, 1989). A series of essays written by birth and adoptive parents who participated in open adoptions through the same Michigan agency. ISBN: 0931722713

The Open Adoption Book: A Guide to Adoption Without Tears by Bruce Rappaport, Ph.D. (New York: MacMillan, 1992) The director of the Independent Adoption Center and founder of the National Federation for Open Adoption Education's guide for consumers. ISBN: 0028621700


More Adoption Books:

And Hannah Wept: Infertility, Adoption, and the Jewish Couple by Michael Gold Paperback Published by Jewish Pubns Society Publication date: 1994 ISBN: 0827604424